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What’s in a guest’s bag?

14 May 2013 by Barbara Leave a Comment

Good morning, lovelies!

Raise your hand if you remembered I also write a blog! I know, I’ve been a terrible blogger over the past few months, and you can trust me when I say I absolutely hate this. I should have populated this english blog, by now (with the tons of old posts that you can still read here) but I haven’t. The extensive list of fabulous content I wanted to puslish lies there, unattended, because I hardly ever have the time to write, let alone to do the appropriate research and take photographs to go with it all. So I have to make do with tiny posts like this, will you excuse me?

Todays post is a season classic. One of those posts devoted to all of you who have received a wedding invite, or will receive one shortly. I know you’re in a planning frenzy already! What to give the newlyweds as a present? What to wear? (Check out my Pinterest board for ideas) Maybe it’s time to book the hairdresser… Accessory are always a riddle. Shall we wear nice jewellery flat sandals or heels? Will the appropriate bag be spacious or a classy minimal clutch?

This last question is particularly tricky, especially since we women tend to carry along with us quite an array of things and props. But I will show you how a tiny clutch can hold everything you really need for that day.

ph. Barbara Pederzini

ph. Barbara Pederzini

What you see here is one of my trusted Accessorize clutches, and the tiniest I have. All the things in that picture? They can easily fit into it!

– tissues, perfect for any mishap, from tears of joy to spills;
– purse, to fit coins for the parking but also safety pins and a tiny sewing kit for fashion emergencies;
– diva shades, to wear ONLY outdoor and in plain sun, never when kissing the bride or chatting to other guests during drinks;
– Sephora deodorant wipes, a must-have for summer weddings;
– a hand sanitizer, to spare you any unncessary queue at the Ladies;
– feminine wipes, no more issues with missing toilet paper!
– a miniature gloss for touch-ups, come on you’re not the bride, you don’t need to bring a full make-up bag. I mean, you’re certainly not going to spend two hours retouching your make up. And if you are… there’s who’s responsible for the queue at the Ladies!
– ID and ATM card and some cash.

Add your smartphone and a keyring with your car and door key… et voilà!

ph. Barbara Pederzini

ph. Barbara Pederzini

There’s you clutch ready to go! So what do you think? What kind of bag/clutch will you be carrying at this years weddings? What’s going to be inside? Let me know in the comments below!

Hello, stranger!

15 February 2013 by Barbara Leave a Comment

Well, hello there! Welcome to the new and revamped fatamadrina website, now hosting a fully english-speaking blog.

At this point you can find only a limited number of published posts, but be sure to check back regularly in the forthcoming weeks as I will be uploading tons of old posts, including behind the scene looks at my job, trend alerts, and reviews of some of my favourite Italian vendors and locations.

I hope this blog will entertain you and inspire your plans for an Italian wedding!

Bye bye.

Ikea for wedding – a Chritsmassy wedding

5 October 2012 by Barbara Leave a Comment

For the first time ever, this year I received the new Ikea catalogue before anyone else in the family. Naturally, my mind was busy trying to figure out the new Ikea for wedding feature, while browsing it, and I was soon struck by the massive presence of polka dots and red items. That is why the fifth edition of Ikea for wedding is titled ‘aqua, red and Christmas dots’.

Ikea for wedding a red and aqua christmas wedding

Imagine an intimate wedding, celebrated at the bride’s family home, just before Christmas.

A small gathering would linger between indoor and outdoor spaces, enjoying an informal yet chic atmosphere. (1) the POLARVIDE blanket would be handed out to guests as a favor (together with a DOFTA pot-pourri sachet) and to use to keep warm while walking in the garden. (2) Dragées (the italian confetti sugared almonds) would be found in a GODTA bowl for the guests to eat. (3) Lighting would be set mixing STRÅLA fairy bulbs with JULMYS candels. (4) The four guest tables would be signed by the numbered FENOMEN candles, while (5) centrepieces would be created by arranging every candle with a TOLSBY frame and a POKAL bowl (with red berries and white flowers arrangements). (6) The red+aqua theme would liven up a white cloth, with a PÅNNA tablemat, FANTASTISK aqua napkins and a red DIOD tumbler to complement regular cutlery. (7) guests would leave notes for the newlyweds by hanging cards on the JULMYS holder. (8) the new IKEA PS 2012 collection vase could be a more formal present from the newlyweds to members of the bridal party.

So, what do you think? Like?

Meet Elisabetta, wedding planner in London

1 October 2012 by Barbara Leave a Comment

Hello lovelies, I hope you are having a good start of the week. Today, I am glad to have Elisabetta over, to answer some questions about her job and the British wedding market. Elisabetta and I met by chance on Twitter a couple of months ago, and since we share a certain approach, and we both have a double career (still doing some marketing on the side of wedding planning), we immediately got along. Plus she lives in the city where I feel most at home in, so it’s always a pleasure discussing things with her.

Elisabetta went into business in 2012, and although she already had some wedding planning experience, she devoted her first year of activity to collaborating with well established colleagues, in order to gain as much experience as possible on the field. This is also the reason why I asked her to premiere this new series on the blog, where I will interview colleagues and vendors asking them to provide you their unique view on the industry. Elisabetta naturally did this by talking about the British wedding industry.

© Parisa Walklet

© Parisa Walklet

1. How long have you been working in the wedding industry in the UK?
In 2009 I attended the Business Practicalities course at UKAWP because I wanted to make sure that my long running passion for weddings and planning was real and could turn into a job. However, I decided to park the idea for a while, as my daily job as Account Manager in a marketing and media agency was very demanding and left me little time to think about anything else, let alone starting my own business. That is why I waited until the beginning of 2011 before creating Linen and Silk Weddings.

2. Which do you reckon are the main differences between weddings in Italy and in the UK?
I think couples do make choices reflecting their culture and nationality, so vendors in the UK possibly have a slightly different approach to weddings. For example, in the UK the average wedding breakfast is a three course meal, while something similar in Italy would probably raise eyebrows. Budgets for English couples are probably similar, or just a bit lower than those of Italian couples, but the way the budget is spent is where the real difference is. Italian couples give a lot of importance to elegance and giving a satisfying experience to their guests; while British couples are more interested in the details, in unique and bespoke decor ideas. I also think the Italian approach to weddings is still very much about tradition, while British couples love to experiment with different ideas, quirky solutions. And British vendors leverage that, as they can use such weddings as an opportunity for good PR.

3. In your experience, what are British couples looking for in an Italian wedding?
For foreign couples, Italian weddings are the epitome of elegance, good taste, and quality food. Couples, particularly mature ones, don’t come to Italy because they look for the remote destination wedding, but for a unique and memorable location to share with a few friends and relatives. Talking to brides and grooms, it’s clear that what they really appreciate is our cuisine, our wines and the Mediterranean landscape, particularly old manors and vineyards.

4. Which trend do you think is the strongest in UK, right now, DIY or vintage?
This is an endless topic, but I think that the combination of vintage and DIY is what goes the most at the moment. They say that the ‘vintage-DIY’ trend started out in the US at the beginning of the credit crunch, with couples having to reduce their budgets due to financial difficulties and look for bargains at thrift markets to decorate their wedding (i.e. an old typewriter or mismatched china). As wedding blogs began to showcase low cost weddings with lots of DIY details, vintage do-it-yourself has become the KEY wedding trend for 2011/12… However, there’s a lot of talking about the trend being on its way out, so watch this space!

5. Are British couples willing to buy second hand gowns and props for their weddings?
I’m not sure about that. Generally speaking, brides with average budgets would still buy a brand new gown, or look for sample sales to save a little. The Oxfam Weddings project has been quite successful so there certainly is a market for second hand.
However, there are now so many online alternatives (just think of Etsy), that even brides with smaller budgets can buy new at low cost. But the real issue for me is the amount of eBay sellers providing made-in-Asia gowns at ridiculously low prices. This is bad competition for wedding boutiques because it pollutes the market with poor quality products made of terrible fabrics. Brides often find themselves with terrible gowns or no gown at all (so often they don’t turn up!) for the sake of saving money, to then having to rush around at the last minute hoping that a boutique can miraculously solve their issues just before the wedding.

6. Do you think there is a negative perception of Italian wedding planners abroad? What’s the British situation like?
To be perfectly honest I have never heard anything bad said about Italian wedding planners. If anything, I have heard people complaining about the fact that their planner or suppliers had a very limited English, which can be a real problem if difficulties arise, as the planner/vendor doesn’t know how to properly explain the situation leaving the couple in a limbo. And this is a real shame, because it gives the perception that working with Italian planners is always a bit of a gamble.
Also, in the UK, and I’m sure the situation is similar in Italy too, there are lots of recent brides who improvise themselves as new wedding planners just because they enjoyed planning their own wedding. Every year the market will have new ‘pop-up’ wedding planners who might build a site with stock images but have no skills or adequate cover to fulfill their job efficiently. These planners apply very low fees, thus undermining the general perceived value of the wedding planning service, and often disappear after a few months or so… I personally don’t have a real issue with them, as I feel established and experienced planners shouldn’t feel threatened, but I would recommend anyone who thinks that setting up as a planner is THAT simple to think about it carefully, because this job requires a lot of time, resources and dedication.
In the UK we are very lucky to have an association like the UK Alliance of Wedding Planners which set up to promote professionalism and good practice in the industry – all its members have to abide to a specific code of conduct that covers various aspects, from replying to all enquiries within 48 hours, to respecting clients’ confidentiality, to informing the couple if recommending a supplier she has any vested interest in etc.
That’s all. What do you think? Did you find this first interview interesting? If you feel like getting in touch with Elisabetta you can do so via Twitter, @Linen_and_Silk.

Bye lovelies!

A day in the life, my work routine

19 September 2012 by Barbara Leave a Comment

Welcome to my new feature, A day in the life, in which I will tell you about the organizational strategy I have embraced in order to simplify my life, working and non-working. I would like to share with you the reasons why I decided to overhaul the structure of my days, and the tools I used. Naturally,

my main aim is to help couples who are busy planning their own wedding (alone or with a professional help) find focus and balance in their commitments

but the advice will be hopefully useful to everybody.

goal

One of the hardest parts of going self-employed and exiting a structured work environment, as of tackling any major life project (setting home together, getting married, having children, etc), is building a productive routine for yourself. Finding your way to get things done. It all goes down to organization and inner balance, really. During the first three years of my adventure with fatamadrina I basically improvised at this, while devoting most of my organizational skills to devising the best practices to running the admin, financial and technical parts of my job. But when I read Michael E. Garber’s E-Myth (and reread it, and reread it again) I realized I needed to go back to tackling the basics if I wanted to move on in my business. This is the task I gave myself for the summer, to analyse every single part of my life looking for better structures and more effective solutions. My main goal was to find myself with more me and family time, while at the same time improving the quality of the service I provide to my clients. What follows is the day routine I have planned to work to that goal.

wake up

I wake up around 6, feed the little one and move to my desk with a huge mug of coffee, to do the first hour of work of the day (my other job, doing online community management and content strategy consulting for some companies). Around 7.15 I move on to waking up my eldest, prodding her to wash herself, eat and get dressed, while I myself get my breakfast and put on gym clothes. I prepare the little one for nursery school and by 8.15 we are out on foot. After dropping the kids off to school I put on my iPhone earplugs and do some 45 minutes of fitwalking around the neighborhood. I’d love to do more but there’s no time and I can always do some more Wii exercise later on in the day, if I feel like it.

office time

By 9.30 I am at my desk, groomed to office standards, because I find it helps me being more productive. I have radio or music in the background, and water handy. I use a productivity software which forces me to take 5 minutes break every 25 minutes of work, and I find it prevents me from actually wasting time online while providing me opportunities to do some small house/office work offline. Lunch break is set for 1 and I stay off-duty until 2.30. If I have a chance, I go coworking with an old colleague, who’s also self-employed. We find it is a tremendous help, providing us with both an opportunity to get impartial feedback and chill out.

family time

I generally work again until 3.45 when I go fetch the kids and spend time with them until 5, when they know I have to get one more hour of work. Between 6.30 and 9 p.m. I am all about the family. The phone is on and I have occasional Skype chats with clients, because that’s the best time for them, but at 9 I make a point of switching off the phone. Day is over!

day close

Before going to bed I try and spend one more hour in front of the computer to make sure I am aware of the activities for the day after. I also try and have the computer turned off entirely for the night (I have programmed self turning on and off to ensure that) then move on to 15 minutes of me time in the bathroom, thinking about outfits for the day ahead or just applying a face mask.

Sounds like the impossible routine to you?! Well, naturally this is theory and any accidents can interfere. But I have realized that without a draft structure on which to elaborate I would never be as effective as I want to be. That’s why I have taken time to read Leo Babauta’s Focus, then sat down to draft structures and lists determining every single aspect of my life. It’s like an office manual for my existence, with even outfit and make-up charts, and I have promised myself I will stick to it as best as I can.

And I tell you, it’s working, and I love it!

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